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kell
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 Posted - 10/24/2006 : 10:23:29 PM
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We can go forward with our life and recoveries, even though someone we love is not yet recovering.
Picture a bridge. On one side of the bridge it is cold and dark. We stood there with others in the cold and darkness, doubled over in pain. Some of us developed an eating disorder to cope with the pain. Some drank; some used other drugs. Some of us lost control of our sexual behavior. Some of us obsessively focused on addicted people's pain to distract us from our own pain. Many of us did both: we developed an addictive behavior, and distracted ourselves by focusing on other addicted people. We did not know there was a bridge. We thought we were trapped on a cliff.
Then, some of us got lucky. Our eyes opened, by the Grace of God, because it was time. We saw the bridge. People told us what was on the other side: warmth, light, and healing from our pain. We could barely glimpse or imagine this, but we decided to start the trek across the bridge anyway.
We tried to convince the people around us on the cliff that there was a bridge to a better place, but they wouldn't listen. They couldn't see it; they couldn't believe. They were not ready for the journey. We decided to go alone, because we believed, and because people on the other side were cheering us onward. The closer we got to the other side, the more we could see, and feel, that what we had been promised was real. There was light, warmth, healing, and love. The other side was a better place.
But now, there is a bridge between those on the other side and us. Sometimes, we may be tempted to go back and drag them over with us, but it cannot be done. No one can be dragged or forced across this bridge. Each person must go at his or her own choice, when the time is right. Some will come; some will stay on the other side. The choice is not ours.
We can love them. We can wave to them. We can holler back and forth. We can cheer them on, as others have cheered and encouraged us. But we cannot make them come over with us.
If our time has come to cross the bridge, or if we have already crossed and are standing in the light and warmth, we do not have to feel guilty. It is where we are meant to be. We do not have to go back to the dark cliff because another's time has not yet come.
The best thing we can do is stay in the light, because it reassures others that there is a better place. And if others ever do decide to cross the bridge, we will be there to cheer them on.
Today, I will move forward with my life, despite what others are doing or not doing. I will know it is my right to cross the bridge to a better life, even if I must leave others behind to do that. I will not feel guilty. I will not feel ashamed. I know that where I am now is a better place and where I'm meant to be.
~ Adrenaline Junkie ~
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harmony
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Posted - 11/20/2006 : 2:51:20 PM
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I have a friend living on the street who has no self esteem right now.
She is finally going to let me hello her find a place to live again. the last time she had a place for years some guy comes out of the blue out of jail
tells he he loves her moves in, gets her screwed up on dope again
and she ended up losing her home.
She just got out of jail and is skin and bones from using again.
I hope that I can help her build her life back again.
Love harmony
"Use Speed and you get FUBBed."
"Seek Christ and be set FREE." |
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harmony
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Posted - 11/20/2006 : 2:53:15 PM
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PS. I sure did say "again" alot.
So what else would I have said.
You know the definition of Insanity?
"Doing the same thing over and over again
and expecting a different result!"
Love Harmony
"Use Speed and you get FUBBed."
"Seek Christ and be set FREE." |
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slingblade
Administrator
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Posted - 11/20/2006 : 6:09:24 PM
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Hi Harmony,
I hope your friend is ready. Sometimes the best thing we can do for someone is to let them know we haven't given up on them.
(there's) not much between dispair and ecstasy
-murrayhead |
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sazzy
New Member
United Kingdom
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Posted - 12/18/2006 : 05:54:15 AM
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hi harmony - hey we have so much in common (again, lol) yeah - so many mates ive tried to save weather ive been using or not... its hard to say no but there are now very few people i'll help out now - remember the saying
if you screw me over - shame on you
if you screw me over twice - shame on me
shame i had to find out the hard way soooooo bloody many times
also a bit of an abstract euphanism this one, but a mate of mine who did ten years bird between the ages of 12 and 25, she's 42 now, said to another girl who was back on the gear again after being straight for a year... "when i was in prison it took me too many lesson the hard way before i learned, i mean what sort of moron keeps going back to that sort of punishment again, i mean i'd steal for smack, get beaten up when i got caught (9 times out of ten) end up in holloway(not a nice place for ladies)and have to go cold turkey anyway, then upon release begin the vicouse circle again, i probably did more bird than heroin"
its not clever or funny, well it is a little, but i took that personally even though she was speaking to someone else...
the hardest fallen always seem to have the wisest of words eh?
anyway harmony, i dont mean to rain on your parade & i DO wish you and your friend luck - sometimes loving caring healing magic DOES work & it takes a strong person to attempt it - so total respect to you love.
take care love sazzy
=o)
sazzy =o) |
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Tweaksnomore
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USA
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Posted - 07/23/2007 : 11:16:02 AM
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Remember harmony you come first tho.
I know this thread was a while ago but I still will tell harmony that today. Hugz |
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